Ask Athena November Edition

How do I grapple with having differing views from my parents?

So often we let our parents inform our moral and political views, so I applaud you for thinking for yourself. While our parents can be good guiding forces, like everyone, they have their own opinionsIt is completely valid to disagree with them. First, I would say, continue to let reason guide you. Don’t change your mind or values just because they differ from your household’s views. Second, either do not mention dissimilar views or do so in a combative way. Parents may have strong reactions to a change in perspective, so if you want to have a discussion, try not to escalate the situation by yelling at them.

How do I recognize if a friendship is toxic?

To recognize what is toxic, you need to understand what an ideal, healthy friendship looks like. In an ideal friendship, both parties should respect each other’s boundaries and help the other person to grow. This simply means that you are able to mature with the other person. Some tell-tale signs of a toxic friendship include: you or your friend always needing each other, not respecting the other’s views, dumping problems while not wanting to help the other friend and getting jealous of other friends. If these elements exist in your friendship,it might be a good idea to rethink your friendship with this person.. 

-Athena